For a lot of women, a smart man is a sexy man. Knowledge is power, and it can definitely intrigue a woman. Now I know what some of you are thinking, “nerds don’t get the girls”. Well some do, and the one’s that don’t have allowed other turn offs to overshadow this great attribute. Having the ability to carry on an intelligent conversation can have a very positive affect on a woman and turn her on.
2. Being Considerate
When you do something considerate, that can make a woman feel special. When that happens, that can sometimes materialize into a greater attraction. Being mindful of her feelings and doing small gestures to show her you’re thinking about her can easily win you some points. You’re pouring into her emotionally and that makes her much more receptive to you.
3. Assertiveness
Most women (if not all) are not turned on by a man they view as too soft and passive. Knowing how to be assertive and putting your foot down at the right time (in the right way) can cause that woman to melt right before your eyes. That doesn’t mean go out and behave like an a-hole, or treat her like she is beneath you. It just means stand strong, handle your business, and demand respect. If she can’t respect you, then she won’t have a desire for you.
4. Appearance
Even though men tend to be more superficial than women, don’t be fooled. She is paying attention, and she too wants something nice to look out. It doesn’t mean you need to have expensive clothes or flashy jewelry. Simply learning how to present yourself as well put together can do wonders. Know how to rock a suit, and that casual outfit. Don’t forget a nice pair of shoes. A lot of women are looking at your shoes whether you realize it or not.
5. Ambition
A man with no aspirations and no drive can be a huge turn off for a woman. Yes there are plenty of good for nothing men getting women to be with them, but that is due to a deeper issue to be discussed another time. The reality is most women crave a man with some ambition. Having passion and a purpose can really do it for her. It gives off the energy of a man who is about handling his business, and a woman loves to see that.
6. Being A Handyman
This is one that for a lot of women isn’t a huge issue if you’re not, but that doesn’t mean they don’t like to see a man that knows how to get his hands dirty. That doesn’t mean you need to be a all out mechanic, or build furniture from scratch. It just means that knowing how to handle things around a house on your own can be a very sexy attribute to a lot of women. It comes off as very manly and naturally women are drawn to masculine energy.
7. Humor
It is well known that making a woman laugh can take you a long way. Unlike some of the other things mentioned on this list, it probably doesn’t generate as much “arousal” but it will draw a woman more to you. We all like to smile, so learning how to have a good sense of humor is a great thing to strive for. You don’t have to be stand up comic funny, and have jokes ready to go. Just remember that laughter is good for the soul and can definitely help you appear more attractive to a woman.
8. Showing Desire Not Desperation
You may have guessed everything on this list up to this point. This right here doesn’t get talked about enough but it sure can make a difference between turning her off and turning her on. A woman likes to be desired (hopefully respectfully) but when you start to look desperate, that just isn’t a good look. Understanding how to show desire without crossing the line of desperation will work in your favor. Coming off as “thirsty” (I know that term gets abused and misused a lot) will probably leave you with nothing to drink.
9. Communication
Your words and knowing how to use them can be powerful. The ability to communicate can make you a very desirable man. That is how some men who don’t have many of the other things on the list still get women. They learned how to listen, and how to seduce her mind with effective communication. A lot of women love to talk and a man that knows how to talk to them can see a huge benefit.
10. Good Hygiene
A lot of women are sensitive to smell, so if your breath or body is a little funky, then that probably isn’t going to turn her on at all. Putting more effort into your hygiene is a great thing to do. A lot of men take this for granted, but when you smell fresh and clean that can make a woman want to get closer to you. Also invest in some good cologne (please don’t drown yourself in it), and some type of smell good that you can use on a daily basis. Some women may like some “funk” but most are turned out by a nice smelling man.
11. Confidence
This is one of the most important, if not the most important factor in turning a woman on and gaining her attention. Confidence is sexy. Women love it, and the same goes for men. If you lack confidence your energy isn’t likely to arouse her one bit. You have to see the value in who you are, and be comfortable with who you are. Just don’t confuse confidence with arrogance. Confidence presents itself, arrogance tends to have to announce itself.
12. Commitment
I know what you may be thinking, “but I don’t even know her well enough yet”. Completely understood, but this isn’t simply about a willingness to commit to her. It’s about showing an ability to commit to anything positive in your life. It could be your spiritual walk, your kids, your dreams, etc. Just showing that you are willing to put in the work and stay disciplined can be a huge turn on. You would still need to be able to find a balance if you move forward with her, but it will certainly make her more confident in your ability to commit to her as well.
